Think you’ve found the one? You may have, and we hope for you it was love at first sight and has brought you nothing but joy and happiness. However, as many couples have found, the road to finding “the one” is not always a smooth ride.
A good relationship should definitely flow easily and effortlessly however, when two individuals are trying to fit together as a couple compromises have to be made. If this is a problem, then you need to rethink how compatible you are as a couple.
Here, we will look at some ways you can tell if you are really there.
Can you stand to make compromises for that special someone? If not, or if that has never come up in your relationship before, pump the brakes. If you truly love someone, and they love you, you and your partner should be more than ready and willing to make compromises. These can be as simple as what you will both watch on TV tonight, what you will eat, or as complicated as how many children you will have in the future. Both of you must come to an agreement on this, and at least one of you will have to be willing to compromise.
Get Ready to Know the Person (REALLY Know Them)
You think we are joking here? Can you imagine your significant other, say, using the restroom? How about them with a skin condition? Or imagine them eating a food you really don’t like. Chances are, you will get to know all these things and more (pretty quickly) about the right person. These things should not offend you. Instead, you should see them as a sign that the other person is growing truly comfortable and intimate with you (albeit in a not so traditional way). Be flattered, not grossed out!
Think you have weird fantasies and dreams you could never share with anyone, not even your partner? Most likely, at some point, you will want to. Be sure to keep your conversations, beliefs, and more judgment free with the other person, especially when talking about things like future plans, dreams, and more. Chances are, this is actually a great way to learn more about them, even if you do not entirely agree (see the paragraph about compromises, above). Feel free to hear them out, and even to try some of their unorthodox ideas. You might like them!
If your core values are aligned, and your consideration for each other is your priority, then compromise shouldn’t be a struggle. It is rare that two people meet each other and everything is perfect. Love is not always easy. This may make love seem intimidating and scary, but as we mentioned before, it really shouldn’t be that way at all. It does however, have to be based in reality to be long lasting. If it’s not ‘real’ it won’t last and there’s always a few bumps along the way as you adjust going from a ‘me’ to a ‘we’.
Above all, listen to your intuition … if your red flags are flying take heed! By the same token when you know it’s right, it’s right – don’t second guess yourself based on past experiences you may have had. Enjoy, let your heart go and revel in your new found happiness.